Ahh… the joys of having more than one kid.
I think parents of multiples can appreciate how drastically things change when the second (or third, fourth, or fifth) one comes along. We strive to treat our children equally but that’s impossible because we have fundamentally changed as parents and, well, our resources are limited.
These are the ten major differences that I’ve found, now that Alexa is older.
1. Celebrating Every Little Thing
First Child: Oh! Look at him kicking the toy! That’s amazing! (Meanwhile,at a few days old, all Max was doing was lying on his activity gym and kicking a hanging toy with reflexive, jerky motions.)
Second Child: She started cruising today! (You still get excited, but only about major milestones. The first laugh, the first steps, the first time she calls you mama. It takes a lot more to phase a second time parent.)
2. Remembering Every Little Detail
First Child: He started walking at 10 months 24 days.
Second Child: She started walking around the time she turned one.
First Child: His first word was ball.
Second Child: Her first word was… Shoot. I don’t remember.
3. Talking about Age
First Child: My son is 10 days old.
Second Child: My daughter is 1 week old.
First Child: My son is 13 weeks old.
Second Child: My daughter is 3 months old. How many weeks is that? I have no idea.
First Child: My son is 10 months old.
Second Child: My daughter is almost 1. How many months? (Tries to do some quick math in head.) 9… no 10!
First Child: My son is 27 months old.
Second Child: My daughter is 2.5 years old.